Reader Asks: Why Am I Having Demonic Dreams at My Boyfriend’s House?

Posted in Demons and Evil Spirits

A  21 year old reader who wished only to be identified as “New Believer” wrote in to share her recent experience with demonic dreams. Here is her letter and my response follows:

“Ok…I don’t really know where to start here. First of all a little background. I’m 21 and have maybe gone to church 10 times in my life. I wanted to go when in was younger but couldn’t find a church that felt welcoming both spiritually and including the people attending. The last time I went to church I was young probably like 13 or so. However I do believe in God or A God or huber being. I do pray and most of the time find comfort from it. I used to pray every night before bed for years. Recently I maybe only pray a couple times a month.

“I started dating my current boyfriend about 6 months ago. Since staying at his house I have had 2-3 demonic dreams. I cannot tell you how relieved I was when I clicked on this site out of all of the sites google pulled up. Please dont take this in offense but I can’t believe the dreams I’m having especially the one last night. I have anxiety but don’t take anything because I like to control it myself without anything. So after this dream I feel like I need to pass it off as “anxiety”. I had a scary dream and need to forget it and calm down. After reading through this site I am starting to think otherwise.

“For the dreams…the first two happened when my boyfriend had left for work and I stayed to sleep some more. All I remember is coming out of a deep sleep…my eyes still closed my body unable to move and all I hear is demonic voices extremely loud in my head. Then I wake up and yes I’m freaked out…but passed it off as nothing. Well last night in my dream I was talkin to my mom sittin on her bed and my ex called me and told me something had happened. He said his house had just “shook” and sounded like a sonic boom. Much like those in the scary paranormal activity movies.

“I told my mom I have to pray…and started praying on her bed. Suddenly I was at the exs house but a house I had never seen, and he was now my current boyfriend. The house was shaking and there were all kinds of loud noises. I don’t know any prayers so I started screaming and speaking Gods name very sternly asking him to make this go away. I was starting to wake up much like my previous dreams where I hear very loud demonic things, I can’t move, and my eyes are still closed. But as I kept talking to God the voices slosh started to go away and the demon sounded dismayed that I had called God upon him.

“All morning I have been trying to go to bed but honestly I’m too scared. Having anxiety on top of this does not help. I didn’t even want to get up to go to the bathroom. If turned the tv on for comfort and woke my boyfriend to tell him I had a bad dream. I haven’t told him what it was yet and he story I have told you all. I know he won’t judge me but I feel crazy just typing all of this. I really need a response from someone and quickly…

“I love the Lord and since I was little I thought it would be “cool” to see ghosts and “help” them. After I saw that movie the 6th sense. Now I’m wishing I never said that. These are demons and I am not “helping them”. I don’t know if I’m strong enough emotionally and mentally to handle a job like this from God. Should I talk to him and ask him for help that maybe I can’t handle this and give it to someone more worthy.

“I almost feel like I need to go to church after this experience. I just want to be safe, don’t want people to think I’m crazy, and don’t want to have, for lack of a better description, scary sh** happening.

“Please respond as soon as possible. I’m freaked out.

“Also I have a friend that I no longer talk to that sees demons. I believe her. Should I try talking to her since I know her experience? To my knowledge she doesn’t pray them away she just deals with them when they don’t leave her alone.

“Thank you all, sorry this was painfully long. God bless.”

                                                            -New Believer

Hi New Believer.  I want to clarify something up front.  Just having demons in your dreams, especially for people who aren’t Christian or don’t have a relationship with Jesus, is not the same thing as being trained to be a demon fighter.

Demons can appear in anyone’s dreams, and they often do.  They like to frighten people when they are at their most vulnerable: asleep.   Of course, the only solution is to use the name of Jesus, since he gave us authority over unclean spirits.

Remember that spiritual counseling is no substitute for medical care, so in the area of the anxiety, my advice is to talk to your doctor.  As far as the spiritual aspects, I believe I can help.

About your new boyfriend:  If this has only started happening since you started sleeping over at your boyfriend’s house, that is a point you’ll need to examine.  Are there things that he does that are invitations for demonic activity?  Alcohol abuse, drug abuse, occult activities, Ouija boards, etc., are a few easy ones to identify right off the bat.  Some of the more obscure reasons, or strongholds, are harder to pin down.  Does he have a past including violence or abuse?

Whatever the reason, there may be something about him, or someone else who lives in the house, that is a stronghold which keeps the demons coming around.

Demons take small things as invitations.  From your message, I can already see one stronghold that you have in yourself as an open invitation for evils spirits.  You said you wished you could see ghosts.  “Now I’m wishing I never said that.”  One of the important parts of casting out demons from yourself is that you identify those strongholds and renounce them.  In other words, what you said about wanting to see ghosts – you need to take it back.

Something simple like, “I do not ever wish to have dealings with evil spirits,” will do just fine.

You’ll need to pray that God reveal to you the other strongholds keeping the demons around you and/or your boyfriend.  Then click here to use the prayer for casting out demons to expel them from yourself.  This process is like taking away their invitation to harass you and influence your behavior.  You’ll need another Christian with you to help with the reading.

Most of all, don’t be afraid of the demons, because Jesus gave us power over them.  If we ask for God’s help, he will let us know what we need to do to make sure all the demons are kicked out!

Matthew 10:26 “So do not be afraid of them. There is nothing concealed that will not be disclosed, or hidden that will not be made known.

About your friend who sees demons:  She needs to go through this process just as much as you do.  We can only have power over them because of Jesus’ sacrifice which saves us and gives us his authority.  There is nothing she can help you with; it’s you who is going to have to help her.

About casting out demons from dreams:  You only need to memorize 2 simple lines which you’ll be able to repeat over and over again in your dreams to cast out demons while you are asleep.  “I cast you out in the name of the Lord Jesus Christ and by his blood and his authority.  You have no power over me.”

About going to church:  Yes, you need to find a church ASAP!  Don’t be afraid to try out a few to find which one feels right to you.  I recommend a non-denominational Christian church that doesn’t make up any of their own “rules” and  teaches directly from the bible.

About your relationship with God:  You already know that you need God’s help for what’s going on and that you need to pray, so that’s a step in the right direction.  If you aren’t saved (born again) already, you can say this simple prayer right now to give your life to the Lord and start living for Him!

If you have questions, feel free to write in anytime.  I will get back to you just as soon as I can.  God be with you!


  1. I would like to say also Danelle that sexual sins such as ****, fornication including ****** and adultery give demons a legal right to exist inside of someone’s body. So, if the writer has done any of those sins, it could be just that the spirits have a right to be inside of her body.

    I went through deliverance and have cast spirits out of myself BUT first, I had to break the legal right and curse the demons had over me by stopping the sexual sins. I had to want it, and believe me, out of my love for God, I broke up with a lot of men. But no one is going to love you more than God, so obedience is better than sacrifice.

    And women may find out that the men that they thought loved them, really didn’t because when you take sex or sexual activity, they break up with you or become distant. That’s not love! We need to redefine love. Love is not just a good feeling of “I’m attracted to this person and he makes me feel good.” Many people in this world, do things with the intention of loving someone but it still isn’t love. Emotions and actions don’t just become love based on intentions or because we want them to. Anytime, you want to what the love is just look 1 Corinthians 13:4-8. Love does not rejoice in unrighteousness and God had me look at my past relationships and see it through his eyes. Often times we want lies to be truth, but then wonder why our lives are in shambles.

    A man that really loves or God is not going to rejoice in fornication. I felt I could stop committing sexual sins but for others, more dedication may be required. With God, you can stop smoking weed, fornicating, etc BUT you have desperate and want it. How do Christians believe that God is the Creator of all things exist, All-Powerful, Omniscient, Omnipotent but help us be true men and women of God? He can but it’s up to us to want more because he’s not going to force us. You have to pray with all your heart, think how Christ Jesus thought, see things his way, praise, worship and God will change you and your life for the better. And no matter how long it takes, stay at it!

    God has in store for all of us and he wants to give us the blessings but we have to be ready. A good parent their child a reward for bad behavior and sometimes, I have expected God to do just that. We have to stop listening the listening to the world making holiness, and righteousness a foreign and old fashioned. Morals, decency and true love never goes out of style.

  2. Cassandra - December 25, 2011

    I have dreams of demonic presence as well. It happens occasionally and I try to call to Jesus for help but nothing ever comes out or I’m paralyized. Last night I had the dream again and I was able to call to Jesus and I started saying the Lord’s prayer in my sleep. I woke up and couldn’t go back to sleep. I told my mom for the first time today that I’ve been having these dreams for years and whenever I am at family home I can barely sleep and the dreams happen the most when at family home. I don’t know what they mean but I am going to go talk to the pastor at the church I started going to.

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